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The Growing Trend of Secret Marriages — 0:00
Secret marriages are becoming more and more common, where the witnesses and the couple are the only people that are informed and involved. What is the ruling on this?
Forget technicalities. No marriage will flourish if it is done in secret. This is not ethical. It is not noble. If you wish to get married, be a man and get married properly. Go to the wali of the lady. You don't have to have a massive festival, but you should not tell people, "Hey, keep it secret. This is a secret marriage." This is going to end up in pain and disaster.
The Problem with Asking "Is It Technically Halal?" — 0:30
The problem that people ask is: "Is this technically halal?" This is where the issue comes. Not everything that is technically halal is something you should do, because the technical halal is the lowest level.
If you were to do the bare minimum halal in a marriage, that marriage would not function. If a husband said, "I will only give you the bare minimum of time and attention and love," and the wife says, "I'll give you the bare minimum of my wifely duties" — how will such a marriage flourish?
The Technical Ruling — 0:52
Yes, you should know: is it technically halal? But then also go beyond this. Is it something the Sharia recommends? Is it noble?
And yes, the technical halal is: as long as the conditions are met — the woman, if she has not been previously married, needs to have a wali; there are two witnesses; and the mahr is given — this is the technical halal.
And if this is done, perhaps there is no sin in the eyes of Allah. But there is also no dignity in such a marriage.