Full Lecture Transcript (Cleaned)
The Question — 30:40
We constantly hear about the role of a son with regards to his mother and father. How about a married daughter? How does she balance between her family, her husband, her children, and her mother and father?
The Difference Between Son and Daughter — 30:54
Obviously, it gets more complicated. It's the fact of the matter that the woman is not like the man when it comes to Islamic law. And without a doubt, there are differences.
Of those differences is that the priority of a male person will always be the mother. And the priority of a married woman is immediately her husband. And when she waits a few years and she becomes a mother, then her son should have the priority up there. So as she gives, she shall receive — as she gives in the beginning of the marriage, she should receive as well when her children, her sons, grow older.
But because of this, it's not exactly the same.
The Husband's Obligation to Be Fair — 31:45
Therefore, there's no blanket statement here. But by and large, a husband should be fair and just. And if he's not, then he is sinful. And the wife has the right to go to an Islamic system or court and complain and get her rights — that he should be reasonable in giving his wife the opportunity and as much rights as she can to take care of her parents as much as need be.
There's no equation that can be given here. Each situation is different and circumstances are different.
Her Relationship with Parents Never Ceases — 32:23
But without a doubt, her relationship to her parents will never stop. And her rights to her parents are not as much as the male's rights to the parents. But she should try her best within her means and with the permission of her husband, balancing her duties. And Allah knows that she would have done more. But it is what it is.
The Male's Responsibility — 32:49
The reason why we talk so much about the male is because the male is obliged to take care of all of those females — the mother and the wife and the daughters, all of them. There's no choosing here. The male has to take care of his mother and his wife and the sons and daughters. All of that. That is what the male does — that's our responsibility financially.
And the woman's role is different Islamically. And if she's not able to contribute financially, at least with love, at least with other aspects — making dua, keeping in touch. So whatever she's able to do, and if she can contribute financially, then even better.