Full Lecture Transcript (Cleaned)
The Question — 33:10
Sisters are asking — brothers, pay attention. In every single Q&A, you get questions about second marriages. Just wondering — why do the men find this so amusing when none of their wives find it amusing? Why are you laughing? I'm literally telling you the sisters are complaining that you're laughing.
One of the sisters is saying: in every Q&A there is a question about second wives. Do you guys find it funny? Because none of them find it funny. And believe it or not, I saw this question and five questions down, there's a question about a second wife — literally.
The Prophet's Example — 33:50
I've said this before in the youth gathering, and I'll say it to the adults gathering as well. SubhanAllah — the Prophet (peace be upon him) never joked about a second wife. This is not of the Sunnah to do so. I'm not saying getting married is not sunnah — I'm saying he never joked about a second wife, because a woman has feelings, and it is not a part of the gentleman and the husband to provoke those feelings for no reason.
If you want to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him) in this aspect — in another country where it was permissible to do so — do it in the Sunnah way. But joking and dangling it in front of your first wife and threatening and thinking it's funny — that's definitely not Sunnah and it's not gentlemanly to do. Really, it's not.
I actually wanted to quote the sister's expression to you. This is literally coming from one of the sisters in our community, and it's a valid point: if a legitimate question happens, I understand, but there is a genuine sense of hurt in this regard, and I don't see this as being a part of what we should be doing. So, a valid point, insha'Allah.