Family & Marriage

Is family planning and contraception permissible in Islam?

Yasir Qadhi January 5, 2021 Watch on YouTube
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Quick Answer

Family planning and contraception are permissible in Islam with one exception: it becomes sinful if the reason is believing you cannot financially afford children, which contradicts the Quranic promise that Allah provides for all. Any contraceptive that does not permanently or long-term harm the body is permissible. Spacing children for logistical reasons — the mother's health, time constraints, work, or general family management — is allowed. The practice is ja'iz (permitted) but makruh (discouraged), since the Prophet (SAW) encouraged having more children. The prohibition applies only when the niyyah (intention) challenges Allah's qadr by assuming you cannot feed your children.

Full Lecture Transcript (Cleaned)

The Question: Is Family Planning Permissible? — 17:44

Brother Imthias from India, masha'Allah — the land of my ancestors — emails and asks: is it permissible to practice family planning in Islam? And to what extent is family planning allowed? Is it allowed to space children out? And what methods of contraception can be used?

Again, I have given a longer lecture on this, but just to summarize with a brief answer here: it is permissible to practice family planning and to use and avail yourself to any type of contraceptive that does not in and of itself permanently or long-term harm the body. Any type of contraceptive that is deemed to be safe is permissible, and family planning is permissible.

The One Sinful Scenario — 18:31

Except in one scenario. In one scenario it becomes theologically problematic and therefore should not be done: if the reason you are spacing children out — if the reason you are delaying or even stopping to have children — is because you feel that you cannot afford to have children. In this case, you have contradicted the Quran. Allah says: We are going to take care of your children, and We shall feed you as well. Therefore, if you space your children out because you believe you cannot financially provide for them, this is sinful.

Permissible Reasons for Family Planning — 19:10

However, if you space your children out because it is easier — for maintenance of time, because a child takes up a lot of time; your wife might be partially working, or tired, or it simply may not be possible for her to take care of multiple young children at once — so she says: I will wait two or three years until this toddler is able to take care of himself a little bit, then I can move on to the next child, and you plan in this manner — no problem. Or she has a degree she is pursuing, or for whatever reason — basically, any reason that does not infringe on the rights of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Because when you say: who is going to take care of the child — it is as if your salary is taking care of the child. As long as the niyyah is not to challenge the qadr of Allah and that you simply want, for logistical purposes, to space your children — no problem.

The Ruling: Ja'iz but Makruh — 20:10

Having said this, of course, we as Muslims love to have children, because our Prophet (SAW) asked us to have children and he said: I want to have the largest ummah. So it is something that is allowed, but it is makruh — it is better to avoid — but it is not haram.

The Hadith on Azl — 20:28

There is explicit evidence: the Sahaba used to practice azl — withdrawing before ejaculation — with their spouses or consorts. In those days, obviously they did not have the types of family planning that we have today. They did not have prophylactics, they did not have pills, they did not have any of these things. So what they would do is that the man would pull out before ejaculation — this was their type of family planning.

Of course, there is no foolproof mechanism, because it is possible to become pregnant regardless. And in fact, in one such scenario in the time of the Prophet (SAW), it did happen that the man thought he had pulled out in time, but apparently had not. The Prophet (SAW) said: you cannot change the qadr of Allah — if Allah has willed it, you can practice all the family planning you want and pregnancy will still occur. However, he allowed them to do this, and therefore it is permissible.

It is ja'iz but makruh — something that should be avoided simply because we are an ummah commanded to have more and more children. The only reason that would be sinful and haram is if you think you cannot take care of your child from a financial perspective, in which case you are sinful for practicing family planning. Other than this, you are not sinful. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best.